And we are back. We’re back for episode six. That’s right. We are plugging along every fortnight, as I say, which is how often? What?
I guess every two weeks? Yeah. That’s what a fortnight is. You never heard that? It’s not it’s also a game, but it’s spelled differently.
Yeah. So our fortnightly podcast, is out, episode six. Welcome. This is oh, in case you’re just tuning in, I suppose this is we’re doing the this is Doing the Most with Scarlet and Mitchell. I am Mitchell.
And I’m Scarlet. And, yes, so you this is our podcast that we do fortnightly. I’ve already stated that. I just I’m fumbling along in life here, which is fine. Hi.
What’s going on with you? Well, oh, like, do you care would always be the question. Right? That’s a Oh, look at your face. I know what’s going on.
I don’t know. Let’s Well, I mean, I forgot to pull down the chart of how many people are listening. Hundreds of listeners, you know. I don’t know. That’s great.
I think that’s a lie. But We’re gonna end it for the listeners. That’s right. We’re we’re we are in this for the money. We’re in this for the tea.
It’s Yeah. It’s just fun times. Right? This is what, you know, what you do when you don’t have any time, and you got five cats and a zillion vacuum cleaners and a whole bunch of stuff going on and kids, and you’re like, hey Why not cram this in on our free Fridays together? Yeah.
Free Fridays, which is interesting. So I’m glad you already brought you already beat me there, not really. I got you know, I don’t have a long list this week, but, you know, I have done this I made this chart again, you know, that I like to make. Right? And this is the chart of of it’s a fourteen day chart because we both work, by the way, we’re nurses.
People who don’t know, we’re nurses. We both work days. We both work thirty six hours a week, three twelve hour shifts. So every two weeks, we both work six shifts total. So we and we have a little boy.
He’s three and a half. And then we also have a 15 my 15 year old who lives in our home, is not as demanding per se. Well, okay. Maybe. Okay.
You’re giving me a look. So I make a little chart which shows like, hey. Here’s here’s the days to break down. Right? And I and I break it down over fourteen days.
Here’s the kind of days that I have. Okay? There’s the daddy max day, which is which means you’re at work, and I’m at home with Max. And he is day. And he is not in, day care.
He has day care four days a week. So Mhmm. Number of daddy max days, two for me. Yeah. Okay.
Mommy max days in a fourteen day period, how many are there? One. One mommy max day, so we’re up to three days. Right? Now there’s family day.
Family day is what we refer to when I don’t work, you don’t work, and Max is not in daycare. Mhmm. So that’s family day. How many family days every two weeks? Three.
Hey, boy, you know this. And then there is date day. Which is today. Today. This is our date.
Every two weeks, we have one date day, which means we’re both at home. Max is in daycare, and then Danger, the older 15 year old, he’s in school during this time of the year. And then there is I’m calling it grandma day, but it’s not really. It’s also called double work day where we both work, and that’s every Monday. And then Max is taking grandma comes over, gets him off to school, to preschool preschool, daycare, and then gets him and brings him home.
So that’s grandma day. And then there’s what’s called Scarlet Day. Tell us about Scarlet Day. What is what is that on the chart? Like how many?
Well, yeah. How many and what is it? If it’s not holiday? Every Tuesday. Okay.
Well, that’s I feel like Every other Wednesday. Uh-huh. So that’s three. Isn’t that it? Yeah.
So there’s three scarlet days. But what is it? Is it day that you I’m home alone. You’re home alone, Max is in daycare, and I work. So it’s I call it Scarlet Day on my chart.
And then there’s something called Mitchell Day, which is you’re at work, Max is at daycare. And in a two week period, how many Mitchell’s days are there? Wow. Like, I need to get the crickets thing added over here. It’s one.
It’s it’s actually two. Oh, it’s two. Yeah. Oh. I’ve got Wait.
Every Wednesday and every no. I mean, every other Wednesday and And then every other Friday. Right? Today? Are you counting oh, right.
Because I work on that Friday now. Yeah. Yeah. So I get two Mitchell days. You get three Scarlet days.
Yeah. And then the rest are, and then I have so and I’ve told you before, the waiting, I feel, is a little in your favor. But in the fairness, you’ve also said, but you also, like, on days, like, on grandma day, you get home and you gotta start the max thing after your shift because we don’t work the same time. We have a little two hour difference. So so with this whole time thing, right, it kind of so, I mean, we’re just going we’re skipping some of the other topics.
So with you mentioned this time thing because this is our date day. Right? Happy date day, which is This is the first time we’ve sat well, that’s that’s a lie. We were on the porch swing for a while. Right.
So in a fifty week period, you the average person works approximately two thousand hours. Right? In fifty two weeks. Sorry. A lot of people do that.
It’s two thousand hours a year because you have two weeks off and you work 50 out of fifty two weeks. So that’s two thousand hours. The number of hours in a year, you’re not gonna know this, is eight thousand seven hundred and sixty hours in a three hundred and sixty five day year, which means the number of work the percentage of time that you’re working, and I rounding up for us, we’re thirty six hours, but you command you add in commute time and some of the other things, and we actually work twelve and a half. Or we’re actually there for twelve and a half. That’s 22.8.
20 three percent of our year is spent working than the amount of time spent sleeping. If you sleep eight hours and which for you, if you sleep 10 or 11, and for me, if you sleep five. But the average eight hour, that’s 33% of your year is now sleeping. So your sleeping and working is 55.8, 50 six percent of your time is spent doing, working and sleeping, which means you’ve got 44% to do everything else, like shower, parent, cook, clean, take care of yourself, which kind in one hand, it’s like, oh, 44%, that’s a pretty good amount. I guess, but you gotta understand that It’s kinda depressing that we spend so much of our life working.
Yeah. And and I that 44% is not a fair amount because if you do the math, I gave us the two weeks off, right, in the in my whole I did it on the yearly calculation. So 44% of your year, one’s year roughly, is you have to do whatever you want, which now what excuse me. You are not sleeping and you’re not working, so you’re doing everything else. That’s what I’m getting at.
And let’s say you’re doing that for like forty years, twenty five to sixty five, give or take somewhere in there. So like these so when you oftentimes what do I complain about? Not having enough time. Right. And and we can’t make time or, you know, okay.
People, you can’t really People like time management. You can’t manage time. You can’t like control it. Right? You can’t like And you just said that today, was it?
You were like, oh, I just feel like time is going so slow, I think. I said that last night talking about mostly, like, where I would like to be in three to five years and how, I don’t know, it just feels so far away right now. Okay. No, that’s fair. So So I guess that’s what I meant when I said time feels like it’s moving so slowly.
Because sometimes I wish I could speed it up because I wanna be, you know, we have talked about our dream living situation and what that would look like and how we can’t even think about moving. Sorry for that. That’s alright. We can’t even, like, think about moving in that direction for at least another three years, two years maybe. Right.
Because then danger will graduate high school. We can talk about selling this house and have more flexibility, I guess. Not that I feel obligated to stay here. Right. But it just makes more the most sense right now.
Right. So yeah. No. I okay. So I understand what you’re saying.
So I agree that it’s like that thing that you want in the future feels like it’s taking forever to get there. Yeah. Whereas for so which is which is funny. I have mentioned this before. Right?
My ho ho ho thing that I say, which is like, you know, you have our plan. You can you’re gonna make sure we’re gonna be where we’re gonna be in three years, but you can’t get to where you’re going to time on time today. And I’m the opposite. It’s like, I have no idea what I’m doing in three years, but I’ll be darned if I’m twenty minutes early to everything I’m doing today. So which maybe might be a good combination or not because it’s always fun when, like, I’m just going nuts because, like, I’m having a, you know, panic attack because I’m like, it’s a twenty minute drive, and you are not even in the car, And it’s literally you have eighteen minutes to get there, and you’re just like, yeah.
We’re good. You know? And I have a heart attack, but then you’re on my case. You’re like, have you thought about this? Like, in two years, like, you know, you’ll you have you’re not aggressive like that.
But so which is anyway, so which also applies to the fact that I feel like every day, like today, it’s like it’s the afternoon right now, and it’s sunny outside. But I am literally like, man, this day’s over. I pretty much have to go back to work, which isn’t for another few days. But I feel like time just like is spinning out of control, slipping out of my hands all the time. Right?
And I hate that sensation, which is just that strange, like, I know people I’m not really here to talk about time theory, by the way, dear listener. Like, because some people are like, oh, time seems slower when you’re like, I don’t know, when you’re when there’s something you don’t want, does it feel like time moves too quick? And if it’s something, well, I don’t know. Like, when you’re a kid and you can’t wake up like, when your kid in school was starting, it was like, oh, but it’s, like, twenty five days away, but then that twenty five days went by so fast. Yeah.
Because you didn’t want school to start and you were just I don’t know. So, again, I mean, that makes sense. I mean As opposed to, you know, this upcoming vacation we’ve had planned for over a year now has felt so far away. Right. And even now, it still feels It’s still a few weeks out.
Yeah. And then suddenly, it’ll be upon us. And then it’ll suddenly be behind us. Yeah. We’re like, oh, and it’s over.
And I hate I hate all this sensation. Now, I’m older than you, and I’m not saying like, oh. But one of the things sometimes I think about in life is this, in general, is if these are related questions, but for hear me out. Not hear me out. If you won let’s say you won the lottery.
You had a hundred million dollars. Money is no longer an object for you. What kind of things would you engage in? Just off the top of your head. Oh, well, yoga.
Okay. Meditation. I would I would go on the best yoga, spiritual, meditative retreat that I that money could buy. Okay. All inclusive.
Got about a hundred million dollars. White Lotus style. I know. But that’s like immediately, that’s what I would and then I are you just talking about how to pass time or, like, what if you No. Well, if you had an endless supply of money or seemingly endless, how what would you do, like, with, like so for me okay.
Those are yours. I’ll throw it out. Like, you’ve heard me talk about it. If I had a ton of money, I won the lottery, I would literally I’d probably open up a business that restaurant or something where I would pay all the workers whatever proportion of the the income was and take nothing as an owner. I would wanna make a sustainable living restaurant for people who work there and not be the owner like all the restaurant owners I feel like.
And they take all the money. I’d wanna do that with the money. I’d wanna set up a charity. I’d wanna, like, pay for school teachers in our area or wherever I live. I wanna donate tons of money to schools so teachers got real salaries.
I would wanna make a lot of difference with that capital if for me, that’s what I think of. I was like, man, if I had a ton of capital, I would do all I would in my I would engage in projects that I can’t do without capital. Like, that would be my I would love that. Whatever it is. You know, like I said, I mean, if you think it like This is so you being the plea the pleaser that you are as, like, you’re like, I’m gonna take my money and use it for good for everybody, which is great.
And but then the it makes me feel so like, and then the first thing I think of is, oh, I’m gonna go take care of myself. Well and this is I mean, and that’s not why I asked you the question. But, like, so and that’s what I think of. Well, it’s like, oh, if I had all this money, I’d build my dream house too. I mean, I’m stupid.
Oh, I’d build my dream house, all this stuff on this, you know, 50 acres of land. But I think of, like, having a lot of capital would allow me to do things. I don’t make a statement, but like I said, you know, and I get you’ve heard me blather on about business ideas, where it’s really about like improving people’s lives and doing quality service, but not to serve an owner or a stakeholder if money were like that now. So I mean, okay. So now let’s flip this a little bit, because the other so I was thinking like, if you had all this money, if you ask someone that, I think it’s sort of insightful maybe about a person.
But the opposite or not opposite, but the other question is then, let’s say it’s not money. We could either do it a couple ways. You have all the time in the world, which isn’t true, but you have free time. You don’t have to work. Your income isn’t increasing, but you’re gonna get your current level of income, let’s just say your life not your livelihood, your your what’s the word I’m looking for?
Your quality of life, your your place Yeah. Like the cost of life Stays the same, but you don’t have to work anymore. Or we could do it like this. Another way would be because that seems whatever. Or it’s like, or every night after you tuck Max into bed, time stands still for everyone but you, and you get like four hours of time.
And it’s like a magical thing. Let’s just say, you get but you get extra time in your day. Or between Saturday and Sunday, the world freezes and you get twenty four hours yourself. The idea here is like, if you had maybe not limitless amount of time, but a lot of extra time, but you don’t have capital, what would you do? See, now this isn’t where I’m like, you already kinda answered it to me.
What would you what would you do? Be your because see, now my answer’s like yours. Mine is, like your original one, it’s like, if I had extra time in my day, I would. I would work out and do yoga and meditate and complete these dumb projects that I like to do, like projects like my A garage. Oh.
Creative endeavors. I would actually take up oil painting again because I love that. I would knit more because I find knitting to be fun. I would learn to play the piano well. I would take piano lessons.
I’d take voice lessons because I can’t sing. I would, like, engage in so many things that I’ve wanted to do for me that are not necessarily expensive, but they cost time. And that’s like so if I had extra time in my life, I would be like I’d read books. I wanna like, you Oh, I would read. Yeah.
You know what I mean? Like, I would be like Why am I I could be reading. Not now, but like, I could have been reading earlier. And I still find some way to, like, waste time. Well but do you see so, like, having said what I said, like, what would you like, I don’t know.
So I feel like when when someone Maybe I would still just find a way to waste the time. If Well, okay. That’s fine too. I feel like if someone says you have all the you have all the time resource that you need, I think that speaks to sometimes maybe more of a core part of us where it’s like, for me, I don’t know. And this is because I ask the questions, so I get to act like I know.
Like it’s more about like, Oh, all this time I don’t have. I’d love I just love to pursue things that’s selfish but that improve me through education, through learning, music, whatever, that improve me. And they don’t cost anything. I have half this crap, all this crap in the garage. But if it were a resource issue for me, I actually wanna do outward stuff to improve others with that money, which I’m not trying to be like highfalutin’, I just think Or you could say, If you have all the time and the money, what would you do?
I feel like because initially people are like, Oh, I won the lottery. I’ll buy me a jet ski and a yacht and all this. But then all that fades and you go like And I think we always talk, we’re probably involved more involved in travel. Yeah. I would You know, like, there’s things that you start to boil down to your core because stuff fades away and becomes a garage full of garbage.
You know? But, like, memory Experiences. Memory experiences, learning skills, talent. I think that’s just fun because it’s shareable. So I don’t know.
I go these are so in other words Well, that’s like adult playtime. Right? And and I don’t mean, like, in the sense of adult play, but I think Brene Brown said that it’s important for even adults to, like, cultivate play. And I forgot what the definition was, but it was something along the lines of play is time spent without purpose or time spent without something. I don’t know what time we’re talking about.
But, essentially saying, like, you know, like, you’re talking oil painting, knitting, those kinds of creative things to you as, like, play and helps, you know, cultivate you as a human, your spirit. Right. I was trying to look that up with Brene, but cause I remember we used to be big on Brene. Not that we’re not, but we went through cycles, right? But she did have that kind of thing.
Because wasn’t she’s like, The difference between work and play, now you’re going to look it up and I’ll blather on. And I guess what is the real point of that? I guess I kinda wonder if that is the place I’m at in my life versus the place we’re at in our life versus the place we are at in the time of of the world history, if that makes sense. Because we kinda talked about this the other day, the amount of time, like how the phone is such like an attachment for many of us. I do think It is time spent without purpose.
Time spent without purpose. Oh. I was right. She just defined I’m a loser at work and I’m a loser at home. So I guess it’s kind of I don’t know.
And I’m not trying to, like, go on about that, but it’s like I don’t know. Part of me is sad or I think of lost time. Because you think about time. Time is like that one thing you can’t Does this get, like, harder for you as you get older? Yeah.
Does it become because, I mean, I think back, like, you know, seven years ago, we weren’t having this conversation necessarily. But I feel like as time has gone on, you’ve become more and more. And I feel like Max being born, it got more, I feel like you had this moment of like, I’m an old dad. And now I have another eighteen years dedicated to raising another human. And I am, you know, halfway through my life.
And I’m not saying, Max, but is parenting a burden to you? Because in a way, it kind of sounds like that. Oh, I do this live. No. Well, I I don’t have an answer for that yet because but I was thinking I was thinking You put them I put them on the spot.
I was thinking of this recently. Well, I I was equating it like this. I was thinking like, oh, man. Like, I talk about sometimes the cat or our dog that we no longer have Mhmm. Because we rehomed him.
Like, I did the equation of like, how much benefit do I get out of this dog and the relationship with this dog versus the cost of this dog and the time? And there was that point where I told you the dog for me is not a positive benefit. It is a net liability. I get zero joy when you sum it all up. And now I’m not flying a child like a dog, but I was thinking of this.
I thought, what are those What’s the joy of parenting and the cost of parenting? And ultimately, parenting is is not a burden to me because there’s a lot of joy that comes from it, but it is definitely a struggle Mhmm. When I don’t feel like I have my own, when I feel like I somehow have lost meat, which sounds so cliche. I’ve lost meat or I I can’t I mean, that’s valid. Terrible at managing managing time.
There I go, using the terms you can’t use. Yeah. I feel like this time just has slid out of my hands in my life, and now I’m in a spot where I’m like I always talk about not feeling actualized. You’re getting so emotional. Okay.
Take a minute. That’s not the point. I don’t know. The idea that at some point you have to like, like, I feel like I’m always getting pushed to just give up my own wants or dreams or hopes or and that’s why I go, how do other people do that? Or You’re you’re human.
Okay? These are thoughts that most people have, and this society has made us feel guilty anytime that we want to be selfish. It’s okay to be selfish. That’s what you do to, like, take care of yourself. That’s why you hear that phrase, like, you gotta put your own oxygen mask on before Before choking your neighbor out or your kid.
I’m sorry. But I mean, ultimately, I think right now, parenting is rewarding with Max, so to speak, because we’re seeing him grow, we’re seeing his vocabulary develop. Including some interesting four letter word combinations. We’re seeing how smart he is. At least we think that he’s smart, and we hope that he’s smart, but this kid forgets nothing.
Like, it is. Yeah, kind of terrible as a parent because you can’t ever say anything. Like, oh, no, we’ll do that tomorrow. Just go to bed. Because when he wakes up tomorrow, that’s gonna be the first thing he brings up.
Like, hey, remember? Yeah. Remember, you said you were and he’s looked at me before and he’s like, mom, you said you were gonna do that. And I was like, yeah, you’re right. I did.
And so that I don’t know, just like watching him grow is really cool. However, I have a lot of you have older kids. I have a lot of people I work with who have older kids, and kids who are, you know, probably into adulthood. And you and I think of myself as a daughter to where yeah, at some point, you really kind of, despite all your parents have done for you, you just kinda kick them to the curb. And you’re like, I don’t care about your opinions.
I don’t care how you think I’m living my life. I’m gonna go live my life. And all this eighteen years you spent trying to raise me right. I’m not saying, like, you know, ultimately, humans are still gonna go have their own human experience. And you can only hope the best for your child, but you kind of realize, like, how it doesn’t matter how good of a parent you are.
Ultimately, we’re all still selfish. And we’re gonna do what we wanna do. And so I’ve, you know, heard people I work with be like, oh, they’re off at college. You know, they’re making, you know, taking I’m paying for everything. I’m working all this overtime.
They’re so ungrateful. Right. You know, because, I mean, it’s true. When I was in college and my parents were, like, giving me money, I I did not understand the sacrifice that they were making for me until I was into adulthood making my own sacrifices for other people and thinking, this sucks. The payoff is terrible.
Right. I hate sacrificing for people. I’m not built for it. I’m too resentful. I’m too angry.
I’m working on it. True. True. Oh, sorry. Yeah.
Well, I think I kinda mentioned I well, you weren’t there. I asked my parents the other day, but this same concept, I asked them. I said, did you did you give me advice about things? I was talking to my Olivia will be heading off to college, 18 year old my 18 year old daughter. And I was just like, you know, you I can give advice, but I don’t know if you hear it or listen to it.
And I tried that with the other girls, the older girls. And I asked my parents, did you guys give me advice? Because I don’t remember advice, but I have. I distinctly feel like they probably tried. Like, I’m feeling where it’s that, like, I’m trying to give them good advice.
I’m trying to give them financially sound advice about things. I’m trying to, like, give my input. And I’m not doing that thing where because they’re not taking they’re not taking my advice or acting on my advice, doesn’t mean they’re not hearing it. But at the same time, I’m like, they just might not be hearing it because they’re not 25 or whatever it is. They’re they’re just not there, and I get that.
But I I feel like that’s You get it, but at the same time, you don’t get it. That’s the struggle. But at the same time, you’re just like I think it’s like, I don’t want you to make the same mistakes I did. Like, you can do better than me, but It probably comes across their own do their own thing. But, see, now, do you remember any conversations being a teenager or right out of high school with your parents who were giving you advice?
Never take. Because I don’t remember really. I don’t think I ever take my parents’ advice even to this day. Mostly because it’s all based in some, like I don’t know. Like, they just don’t have a lot of life experience.
I’ll just leave it at that. Okay. Fair enough. And it’d be based in some, I don’t know, fundamentalist Baptist garbage of, you know, just like pray about it and God will show you. And you know how I feel about that.
Right. Oh, fair enough. Well because it worked out so well for you guys. Did it? Did it?
But tell me how you really feel. So I’ll stress an episode for another day. Right. Okay. Well, I mean, so I guess there like, you also to bring this back is I don’t know if kids will always listen when they’re older.
And like you said, then the payoff feels like really, like, cruddy. Not that there’s supposed to be a return on investment or I don’t need, you know, my kids to do whatever, but at the same time, there’s a lot of heartache and things involved in, with kids. And then at some point, it’s just that sensation of like, well, crud. I devoted a certain amount of my time and energy and I mean, I don’t look at it as I need a return on any of it. Oh, what?
I need you to stop dooming Uh-oh. Is taking responsibility for other people’s mistakes. Yeah. Well, I mean, that’s because I you know, it’s not their fault, by the way. Because It’s my fault.
Because it’s not your fault. I thank you. Thank you. I can’t think of it now. Thank you, Robin Williams.
Yeah. It’s not your but it’s not your fault. I know. No. It’s not your fault.
Just like it wasn’t your parents’ fault that you, you know, had your own mistakes. Did you look and blame them? Like, oh, this is all their fault for. Right? Oh, no.
I I’m more angry that they didn’t they didn’t tell me what to do. I know. Why wouldn’t they Oh, you wouldn’t have listened. That’s what I’m saying. I wish I don’t know.
So we’re having that kinda yeah. Yeah. I don’t know. So that’s kind of the I think I call that the con part of the conundrum of parenting. Right?
You do your best. They get older. They’re gonna do what they’re gonna do. You try hard, and then I don’t know that anyone listens, I really, is where you’re like and then you have the moment of, like, dang. Did my parents did they have the same struggle?
Did they tell me a bunch of stuff? Because I don’t remember any advice, but I wish someone would have said, look. Just go to community college, man. Do you two years of community don’t even go to college. Wait.
Hold. Take a year off and go fumble around Europe or something. Go live somewhere and do something weird, and then think about what really and then go to community college and save your mind. Like Yeah. They may have said that.
I don’t think they did. But those kind of things, and then you feel like, man, I’m trying to give you my experience. Anyways, well, I I don’t wanna. So this all came back about the conversation about time, feeling like I’m running out of time. That’s the other thing.
At the beginning, when you’re a teenager or even young 20, like, you’re like, I got my whole life ahead of me, man, Because the percentages, you got your twenty eighty, the Pareto rule. Right? You got 80% of your life ahead of you. You’re like, man, the world is your oyster. And now I’m in the middle of, like, holy crap.
I’m actually on the downhill side, and time is I am living there’s less time for me to live than I have already lived, if that makes sense. Right? So so there’s like and and past performance, if it is a predictor of future returns or whatever path whatever that saying is in the stock market, it’s looking pretty abysmal. There’s there’s sometimes I am actually hopeful and puzzled. Like, you know what?
You can chase your dreams whatever age you are, blah blah blah. And there’s other times, like, I don’t know, just feel like, I’ll just lay down and be done with this. So anyway, happy happy podcast day. Happy date day. These are thoughts a lot of people have, so So let’s And now we’re gonna shift gears.
However Oh, I should mention, well, we are shifting gears. Speaking speaking of thoughts that other people have, I’m not trying to put any pressure on our friend, superfan, Kathy. But who we talked about her comment last week, and then she she put another comment, which I should respond to her comment. But here’s she’s like, you got this is Kathy. Wonderful Kathy.
You guys, I feel so special being mentioned in your episode. Of course, now we’re really solidifying that she has to keep listening. I think that being the first commenter makes me your number one fan, so that is kinda cool. So here’s a weird coincidence. I also lived in Warrensburg, Missouri.
I don’t know if I’ve ever heard anyone outside of my family talk about that place. So that’s crazy. I was very young. We were there in the late seventies. My dad taught at the university.
You mentioned Small World. So, because I mentioned Warrensburg, Missouri last episode. Here’s Cathy, I need to just put a comment up, but I’m gonna even I’m gonna one up this one. I’m gonna guarantee with near certainty that I’m gonna mention some names here, and you or someone in your family will actually have known these people in Warrensburg, Missouri. At the time I lived there, ’79.
So it’s not about maybe the overlap of the people that we might have known. There’s only 13,000 people in the town, but there’s some other reasons why I have a feeling. So a professor at CMSU and his wife are, Tina and Jerry Adams. I guarantee you, Kathy, that someone in you or someone in your family knows Gerry Adams or Tina Adams. I’m just gonna lay that out there, and we’ll let superfan Kathy respond, or I’ll chat with her.
So What if she was an Adams before she got married? Well, no. Because I know their kids. The kids would be Steve and Laura Adams. Okay.
What if she changed her name to Kathy? I No. I’m Well, I would okay. I would recognize Laura. I’m just not gonna say Laura.
You would recognize Laura after all of these years. Yes. Laura, wonderful Laura. This, every other she had a distinctive feature. So and, you know, that’s why I’m like, oh.
But anyways, and and even more, Gerry Adams was a MASH, the movie, or the movie and TV series, MASH fanatic. Like, and I’ve heard you talk about these people before it first started. He lived on Grover Street, right across from the middle school in, like, a hundred year old house. Really cool. And, like, one of those really cool houses, like, just old creaky, and they, like, and and the seller found like a headstone when they were digging or something, like, from somebody from That’s it.
The eighteen hundreds. And, what else would I say about that house? Oh, how about, like, big, like, tall ceilings, and he had, like, the true library office den or whatever. His office had all the book show. Lots of mass stuff.
Anyways, pretty sure I Alright. There it is, Kathy. Happy. I’m just saying. And and Jerry’s no longer with us.
I don’t know about Tina. Anyway, so okay. So anyone else can call call. We have Call in. Call we have a call around.
I’m gonna give you Mitchell’s number. Feedback at scarlet and mitchell dot com. That’s scarlet with one t. Or you can go straight to scarletmitchell.com, find the episode. You can put your comment in, and then I approve it.
Or we have some stuff going on on Blue Sky, Scare Mitch, which I need to get in better habit of using to announce the, that’s our handle. Maybe we need to get some other handles. Okay. Let’s talk let’s talk turkey, or should I say eagles? Real popular lately is the Big Bear Valley Eagle Cam.
It is. I’m a big fan. Popular in our house, popular at work at your work. Yeah. I well, popular enough that 40,000 people are, minimum, are tuning in all the time.
What would you say that why is it exciting to you? And by the way, I think it’s is it bigbearvalley.org or is it got bigbearvalley Friendsofbigbearvalley.org. So Okay. And you can go to YouTube. 0bbv.org, or just go to YouTube and type in eagle cam.
Yeah. It’s It’s not necessarily exciting. It’s beautiful. Well, I like to think of it as real the only real reality show because it’s not there’s no bird producer up there, like, you know, snow And who knew that eagles could be so protective of their yeah. Like, I had no idea.
Now now, like, there’s a guy at work who has an eagle cam on all the time. And, you know, I would walk by and be like, oh, blah blah. Oh, what? And then, like, one day he zoomed in on the egg, and he was like, look. There’s a little crack in it.
And I was like, oh, that’s so cool. And, like, kept walking. But now being as invested as I am now I’m seeing one of these eggs potentially hatch. I would be, like, over the moon So excited. Originally, you’re like, oh, hey.
That’s real real sweet there, Daryl, and your eagle look ham. Yeah. Alright, buddy. But now you’re actually like, well, you know, you yeah. I mean, we’ve had it up on the TV frequently because you put it up for our cats to watch.
It has like a, you know Yeah. They they have two eaglets, Gizmo and Sunny. Sunny and Gizmo. And then we got mom and dad are Jackie and Shadow. Yes.
And Jackie’s the mom, and Shadow’s the dad. And Mhmm. We spend a lot of time trying to figure out who’s who, and then we figured out how to tell them apart, we think. And then, you know Yeah. Dad does a lot of, like well, they both do a lot of work.
You get to watch them breed fish in the tank. Like fifty fifty parenting. Yeah. I mean, I feel like, you know yeah. I mean, yeah.
Okay. Fair enough. I mean, Shadow, I feel like pretty strong, though. He’s doing some good stuff. Excited when they, like, bring in a fish or another stick, and Shadow is just so clumsy and, like, silly.
And he’s, like, you know, putting fluff over the eaglets. And, like, one day, I couldn’t even see them for two hours because he had so much fluff on top of them. He means well. He means He’s very nurturing. He is.
So I like yeah. No. It’s fun to watch that. And so this is oh, and this has brought about, well, really quick. I’ve looked We’ve looked a little bit on this, because Big Bear is near like Nevada or the Sierra Nevada, but still I think in California.
Anyways, it’s, like they’ve been together like Shadow and Jackie. Three or four years. Yeah. It’s kinda cool because they’re you know, I don’t know if they mate for life, but apparently, you know, they have that going for them. Yeah.
So it’s made us become a little bit of well, me at least, and now you bird watcher. And we noticed driving to Max’s daycare the other day, I noticed a just a nest between some billboards and actually a structured nest that was built there between the billboards with a couple of roosts. And then today confirmed and got close-up that it’s an osprey nest. So it’s very It’s exciting. It’s really cool.
We saw three. Yeah. So more nest. We noticed three, and they really like the the cell phone towers. Right.
And then that one I don’t know. I guess that’s maybe an established roost that’s between those billboards. Right. And like enough that people have built purchase for them Yeah. On both sides of the giant nest.
And, yeah, the Osprey. And I can’t tell what the other two are because they’re really high up. But I did see, you know, the mom the mom or the dad one is always kind of standing over the nest. Right. Because it’s spring now.
Mostly by rivers because it just so happens that because as we were driving to Portland, we weren’t seeing them. Right. So my theory is because, you know, Max is that that road we take to get to daycare runs right along a river. Yeah. So that’s where they tend to, like, set up camp wherever they start.
To see, and I I wish there were more cows out there. So look for them, people. Like, they’re kind of everywhere. Yeah. No.
It’s pretty cool. And I would guess someone’s probably gonna write in. Actually not. Who am I kidding? Sorry.
Someone will probably write in and say, yeah, they are required by law to put x y z on cell towers and and billboards or something. Meaning, like, someone might be more wise as to why they’re there. I could see that being a thing though, where they’re like, if we take some habitat, we need to provide that. I’m not saying in a mean way. I’m saying, like, that might be a deal.
I would guess so. They might be like, oh, yeah. Actually, that’s required. But nonetheless, it’s cool. Yeah.
We look up now and you find little spots and, looks pretty pretty. Picture of the Osprey that he can, you know, upload to the website. It’s it’s really zoomed in, but you can still see a lot of his features. Right. It’s pretty because initially It’s pretty fierce.
Yeah. I initially thought it might be an Osprey, but this picture confirmed. I was like, oh, yeah. I’ve got that stripe on the head and all that. So that’s very cool.
So, yeah, that’s, kind of the fun thing, which then also, so we got the eagle cam online, and then we got our local, predators. I think raptors are these kind of birds, you know, you got the new world vultures, raptors. There’s a variety. When you’re a bird person, you kinda get this stuff. We’re bird people now.
Yeah. In so much as Yeah. We we have our very own bird habitat that has made its home in our chimney. Yes. Oh, chimney chase, if you wanna get technical, which is Yeah.
For you And, apparently, its nest must be right behind our bedroom wall. Yep. Where our bed is. And then And every I don’t know what they’re doing. Yeah.
Because I don’t think it’s yeah. There’s this sound. It’s almost like a Yeah. It’s like a It’s like a metallic sound. Can’t even Yeah.
Well, yeah. It’s a metallic sound, but kind of a rattly a little rattly metallic sound. Like, somebody’s I banging, like, on a I was I imagine one of those, like, metal y tin watering jugs. Like, someone’s kinda tapping on it and the handle’s a little vibrate y, loose like it has a very distinctive sound. But the question is, Isaiah said, he’s like, what are they doing?
Like, why are they banging on some metal product in there? What is going on in this nest? It’s like building an addition. I know. It’s like I well, I don’t know because it’s been going on for weeks.
You would think, like Construction needs to not happen in the wee hours of the morning. And then I was like, just can we wrap it up? Whatever’s going on, like, why it’s like you know what I mean? Because you would imagine a bird flies into a nest. Like, what do they gotta do?
Like I don’t know. We we’ve had a bird nest in in our plant pot on the porch, you know, a couple years ago. We had our very own birds with the eggs, and that was, like, so exciting. And they were out there, like, banging on the wall, and they just kept to their nest. Or they would if we were outside kinda close by, they would stay the mom would stay very closely perched watching us, making she even she was, like, protective of her nest.
So It’s like you come I don’t know what they’re doing. I don’t even know how to get out of here. I’m an expert. You lay an egg, you sit on an egg. Mhmm.
You watch it hatch. You feed it some stuff. Like, none of those none of that I just described required any at, like, four in the morning. Like, none of that was required. I don’t so that’s why it’s like, what is We’re stuck with these birds.
And we’re contemplating I’m contemplating buying one of those stupid plumber snake cameras, partially because I wanna see what’s on the master bathtub drain that’s causing a problem and sticking it in the hole in the chimney to see what is going on because I have no idea. Unless it’s a small We’re not gonna smoke them out because what if there’s babies in there who could suffocate? Like, we are not gonna go that route. So we are just thought about it. We’re just, you did thought you did.
When is it early in the morning? Yeah. Did when early in the morning when you’re laying in bed and you hear it through the wall and you’re like, why? What? Yeah.
I just don’t know. That’s why I guess what I said. If they were chirping and tweeting, I’d be like, oh, that’s so lovely. But it’s the bang Maybe they’re getting annoyed with us. It’s like they’re like, whoo.
It’s like when you would play your guitar late at night and the neighbors across I went back out. Shared a wall with us would, like, bang on the wall. Maybe they’re like, is that wait. Someone what’s going on over there? They got a they got a air compressor running?
Oh, it’s a CPAP. Oh, you know, like, I don’t know what they’re maybe they’re upset. I don’t know. But CPAP, a cell machine Yeah. And a fan.
It’s mission control over there. Women snoring with tape on her mouth. I have not been taping my mouth. I know. So yeah.
I don’t know. I’d love to know what’s going on, what the banging’s all about because it’s like it just doesn’t make sense. We’ll let you know if we find out more about these birds, but for now, we’re stuck with them. Yeah. So we So I don’t know how those babies are gonna leave the nest because it does not look like it’s gonna be in, like, any easy feat, you know?
Yeah. Because If there are babies. I think there are babies. I feel like there’s a name for this time of year for the why Spring. I mean, like, what you know, like, it’s like in other animals, like, you know, it’s like it’s it’s eagling or it’s like birdling or like you know what I’m talking about?
It’s when they’re mating and also They’re hatching and But I feel like everything’s having babies. I feel like there’s a name a specific name, and I get I think it’s just spring. I did claim to be a bird person a few minutes ago. I am not. But, you know, like, it’ll come to me at some point when I’m not podcasting, but it’s like, oh, it’s the, you know, it’s like the the annual mating in bird hatchling time of year for birds and it’s called and, anyway, so once we get into sell ride, they say I am not, you know if here’s a problem.
Well, a problem. I have a ladder that will go up pretty high because that part of the house I’ve been up on by the chimney chase once, and I that’s when I thought I might get stuck on the roof because our roof is really steep and it’s really tall. Like, that part of the house is literally about a third story up if you imagine because we’re on a hill, a little bit of a hill. So that thing is way up there. Yeah.
And if I were to go the the roof side, it’s scary because just getting out of our roof is scary. And to go and I’d have to Why? Because our roof is at like a, you know You know, what is that? 85 degree angle? Or slightly not slightly less than vertical.
So there’s that, but I could go a ladder and try to get something up there. It would be fun to put a camera up there just to watch our own, like, and people could tune in. And like, hey, look, this bird plays the, metal sprinkler can in the morning, like or whatever it’s doing. Hammer it. I literally can’t figure it out.
I know. Yeah. I feel like we have to know. We gotta find out. We gotta figure it out.
So I really we’re gonna wrap this show up. Okay. Yeah. I mean, unless you did you bring anything? You’re like, no?
No. I just got some ideas for upcoming shows. Oh, cool. Well, this sounds exciting. Wait.
No. I Uh-oh. Okay. Have a honey what is this? It’s what am I it’s honey, what am I looking at?
Okay. Honey, what am I looking at? And I brought it with me. Oh, okay. Excited.
And I want you to just send this box. You’ve brought a box. Is that where it was? I’m well well, first off, there’s this is a brown piece of paper. Okay.
Okay. And then underneath is Yeah. Is this from our shower? Yeah. It is.
I like it. What am I looking at? Describe it for the listeners. Well, first off, it is a ziplock bag and inside of the bag are is like a white, well, I know exactly. It’s a white they’re they’re Why are you laughing?
Because this is soap. But it’s There is a go ahead. It’s a sliver of a bar of soap. So Uh-huh. Technically, it is one of them is turning How many are in that bag?
Three. Okay. Three slivers of soap. One of them looks like a like a toenail off a 76 year old male. So off a pinky toe.
Really long but thin. And the other is about the size of like a lot quite a pink eraser. Yeah. So probably each of these three were once their own individual bars of soap. Right?
Okay. Right. Which And there’s a whole new bar of soap, new ish. It’s I’m working on making it one of these. I’m just curious.
What is your goal with these? So okay. Touche. So why do I keep them in the the, shower? Yeah.
I I would like to lie and say I’m gonna get a whole bunch of it and compress them into a large Oh my god. A larger bar of soap? With all the time in the world that you have. Yeah. On that extra four hours that I’m inventing a machine for.
Or I don’t know. Sometimes you’re just like, oh, just a little bar will do. You don’t know. Okay. Fair enough.
What am I doing? I’m just I’m not it’s your I know. I understand what you’re doing now. You’re saving up to make a full bar of soap. And I I get it now.
You can buy a a soap bar compressor thing Oh my goodness. Compresses it into a bar. But, okay, I don’t know what the plan was. So I will do well, here’s because you go like you say, oh, I can’t throw out. It’s still soap.
Right? Well, yeah. You can’t throw out. You would not here’s What else would it be? You would not get a brand new bar of soap and then just carve off a sliver of the end and throw it away, would you?
What? Well, I’m saying, like, you wouldn’t get a new bar of soap, cut some of it off and just throw it away. Right? There’s a new bar no. You’re just asking me to do that at the end instead of the beginning.
So Yeah. This so it’s almost like soap needs to invent a thing that’s in the middle, which is a piece of plastic. Oh, listen to this. It’s about the size of one of these, and it’s the holder. It’s like the holder for deodorant.
Right? It’s in the it’s the core, but once you get there, you can throw it away. So you need a core and the soap to let you know when it’s okay to throw it away. Bingo. I’ve now made us a million dollar idea.
Patent didn’t mention Martin Freeman. It would be poor for the rest of our lives. Because think of that. You now have a core and you’d be like, oh, and it’d be bright. It’d be different color.
It wouldn’t be white. It’d be like a bright red little thing, and you’re like, oh. And you’re like, oh. Hey, guess what? This soap is done.
I can throw it away. Mhmm. I can throw the core away, and I’ve used all the soap. Why are more places not putting a core in the soap? Yeah.
See, I’ve now blown your mind. What is it? It’s it’s the inspiration for a million dollar Okay, maybe a $10,000 idea. I just have to so the question is, do I make my own soap and put a core in it and advertise it with the patented core soap, soap soap core? Or do I see if I can sell it to somebody else?
To lever, Unilever, I think they make soap. Okay, there you go. That’s what you’re looking at, a million dollar idea. So that’s all we got. That’s all we got.
Thanks for joining us this week. Yeah. Remember to follow, review, and subscribe. Review, subscribe, comment. Oh, yeah.
Just do it all, Kathy. Yeah. Don’t let Kathy outdo you is what I’m telling you people. Don’t let that happen. Thanks for listening.
Until next time. We’re talking. To you next time. Now I can’t get rid of her. She thinks she’s with me, but she never listens when I say she has the lead.
She’s just walking. Wow. I’ll end it there. Wow.
You were right, Mitchell! My parents did know the Adams. My mom said that Jerry had passed, but Tina is living in Lehi, UT. The friends I have heard them talk the most about over the years and that I remember just a little are the Halls, the Waites, and the Hughes families. My mom was a nurse too and worked for Dr Faulkner, so I have heard a lot of Dr Faulkner stories and remember him vaguely. Maybe he was your doctor too? I’m sure our parents could have a fun conversation with each other about mutual acquaintances and Warrensburg memories!
Great show! I have thought many times about all the things I want to do and learn and places I want to go and books I want to read and how there just isn’t enough time, so I really related to that conversation.